A lot of people who go through divorce dread settlement negotiations. They oftentimes don’t want to sit down with their estranged spouse and choke back their emotions as they try to work out issues like property division and child custody. Even those who are on amicable terms with their spouse can find it challenging to work through these issues in a way that is fair but also protects their interests. Fortunately, there are things you can do to better ensure that you’re well-positioned for your divorce negotiations.
Keys to a successful divorce negotiation
There are a lot of things you can do to ease the stress of negotiating and increase your chances of success. Consider the following:
- Know what you really want: By focusing on the things that are most important to you, you can make sure that you don’t get too bogged down and overly stressed about things that don’t really matter.
- Know what your spouse wants: If you can recognize what your spouse really wants out of settlement talks, then you can create some leverage and develop a strong negotiation strategy that works to your benefit.
- Don’t have an aggressive tone: If you walk into negotiations with nothing but a list of demands and threats, then talks are going to get heated and probably stall. Instead, come up with requests that you can present in a level-headed manner.
- Leave your emotions at the door: We know this can be hard, but try not to bring too much baggage into negotiations. Doing so can derail talks and lead to nothing being resolved. While you might want to berate your spouse to a certain extent you probably also want to get through your divorce as quickly as possible. Leaving your emotions at the door can help with the latter.
- Don’t be a pushover: While you don’t want to be too aggressive, you also don’t want to be bulldozed by your spouse. Be prepared to stand up for yourself and your interests when necessary.
We know that following these steps is easier said than done, but you don’t have to worry. An attorney can help you navigate your divorce negotiations so that you have an advocate on your side who can see through the emotions and put things in perspective. Hopefully with that help you can achieve a resolution that sets a favorable stage for your next chapter of life.