It isn’t easy to have to come up with the terms of a child custody agreement, but you might find that you and your ex working together produces better results for the children. There are several things that you might do that can help you get things together without putting too much stress on you or your ex.
One of the most important things to remember is that the children must be the focus of the discussions. This isn’t the place to hash out the issues that caused the marriage to decline. Instead, think about how you can help solve some of the problems that are plaguing the child custody matter.
Sometimes, you’ll have to take a step back from the situation to gather your thoughts and determine if there is a way to resolve an issue. Trying to work things out when you’re heated can make it even more difficult than normal to come up with a resolution.
Try to think about how the agreements you make will affect your child. This includes trying to work out a parenting time schedule that will work for their needs. You must consider the school schedule and extracurricular activities, as well as when your child will be able to spend time with each parent. It likely isn’t in the child’s best interests to go to a parent’s home if that parent will be at work the entire time, so try to focus on ensuring they get quality time with both parents.
Ultimately, the parenting plan must reflect what the kids need now. This can help everyone to settle into the new normal. As time progresses, you can modify the parenting plan if your child’s needs change as they mature.